For My second date with Premiership guy, we decided to go for a picnic in the park after work. It was a beautiful sunny day so I thought what better than to chill out in the sunshine. It started off fine enough, we found a good spot in the sun and sat down. He was wearing a tight fitting t-shirt and I could see his beautifully toned arms and further proof of his very flat and toned stomach – made me feel slightly ashamed of my rather soft mid-region.
Us women have a real hang-up about having any type of belly, but the sad truth is, once you get past a certain age it becomes harder and harder to get back to that magical flat stomach some of us (if we were lucky) had in our teens and early twenties. My magic metabolism disappeared around the age of 23 with my first office job. It was quite a blow when I realised that could no longer “eat all the pies” without fear of having a mini pie-baby for the next week and a half.
Back then Carbs and I were fleeting bedfellows, now we’re fast friends, as the minute any kind of refined sugar or flour passes my lips, they seem to weld themselves lovingly to my midriff. Oh and whilst I’m ranting, why oh, why is it that the fat always leaves my not-so-ample bosom first, then my ass and last, and mostly definitely the very least – it leaves my belly!
I’ve been told by some of my kinder male friends that guys actually like a little softness round the middle – pffft! Apparently they don’t like a rock hard flat stomach, they want a more cushiony belly to rest their head or hands on. Whether that’s because if we have a belly it takes the pressure off them to have a perfectly toned, you could wash a month’s worth of laundry stomach, or whether they actually do find it more feminine I truly don’t know, I just hope it’s true.
I remember about a year ago when I was seeing a PT with muscles so cut my eyes bled just looking at him. He was stood behind me with his arms around me when he placed his hands on my little food-baby and jiggled it…
“Whhhat are you doing?” I asked as calmly as I could.
“Ohh I just love your belly, it’s so soft and jiggly!”
Needless to say he did not get any sex that night, instead I spent the next ten minutes explaining to him that although he may indeed love a “belly that jiggles” this was not conducive sexy-talk for any woman. I then spent the rest of the evening resisting the urge to comfort eat and feeling guilty about all the pies I know I shouldn’t have eaten over the preceeding three months.
Anyway as often happens, I digress… so here I was in a lovely park eating all my favourite carb friends with my handsome Palestinian Premiership Prince. It was very relaxed, very peaceful… in fact it was a little too peaceful. It seemed that the conversation that had flowed so easily a couple of days previously was now more like a stagnant pool of small-talk.
I had nothing to say, and it would seem neither did he.
We tried several times to start conversations, but either it was the warm sunshine that melted our brains, or more likely we’d just talked ourselves dry on the previous date. We relaxed in the park for an hour or so until it started to get chilly and I’d really had enough of surreptitiously envying/ogling his toned body and beautiful green eyes. We then decided to take a stroll to Trafalgar Square, partly in the vain hope that a change of scenery would stimulate conversation again, but alas it was not to be. After yet another so pregnant it was about to give birth pause, he turned to me and said.
“It’s so great that I feel so comfortable with you that we don’t need to talk, I’m just really enjoying being with you”
Ass so sweet I hear you cry…. Oooh so boring I heard myself lament. You see for me conversation is pretty important, mental stimulation is a massive turn-on for me. If you haven’t already worked it out I’m pretty wordy – and as much as I am drawn to the quiet “mysterious” types, I do like a modicum of communication.
But it wasn’t solely his fault, I wasn’t able to contribute much either and I realise now that this was a direct consequence of arranging a second date too soon after the first – not enough had happened in the last few days to talk about and we clearly had very little in common.
So I decided to call it a night and head off home, and that’s when he went in for the long awaited kiss…
It was… to be quite honest… a letdown, any chemistry I’d felt on the first date had long since evaporated in the drought of our conversational desert. It wasn’t that he was a bad kisser, not at all, there just wasn’t much in the way of feeling or emotion – more like a practice kiss, like when you’re a kid learning how to french kiss without knocking out your front teeth.
Post-kiss, we said our goodbyes and I went home feeling slightly deflated, which makes me wonder why I agreed to go on a third date – I’ll tell you all about it in the next post 😉