So who am I and why am I writing this blog?
I’m a normal woman working in a big city trying to find a reasonable bloke i.e. one head, functioning limbs, functioning brain – at least a decent percentage of brain functionality at any rate- a good personality and a self-supporting income. Is that too much to ask???
Basically this all came about after my 9 year relationship ended – won’t give you the gory details but there was the usual heartache, betrayal etc etc. needless to say I came out of it at the tender age of 34 wondering how the heck this whole dating scene now worked – the answer I found is it had changed… a lot! Certainly it’s changed from how it was when all you needed to do was get wasted in a bar or club, snog a random guy, hope the beer googles didn’t steer you too wrong and see what happens (although admittedly I do still use this as a default tactic with varying results).
So, fast forward three lonely years (well not that lonely really, but we’ll get into that later), and I am bemoaning my single status to my dad, about how hard it is to meet someone when all your friends are off having families and preaching the word of how children are sooo fulfilling and life changing (I’m sure they are but not for everyone, and telling me all the time doesn’t help matters).
My Dad then comes up with an answer to my excuse of not trying the online dating scene because it’s ‘just paying for rejection and I can get that for free’. We come up with an agreement, I am to subscribe to an unnspecified dating site and go on at least 100 dates over the course of 12 months, and if I have not found true love or at least something that closely resembles it within that time, he will pay me the membership money back. It’s a win-win situation in my book, and if I get at least six dates then it will have paid for itself – assuming the men in question are gentlemen of course. Plus if I don’t find love I can use the money my dad gives me to buy myself a third cat and start down the merry road of becoming a fully fledged crazy cat lady.
So here I am, I have an online dating profile, I’m starting to get dates and I start thinking to myself why not share my findings with the world? Give stats on what makes a good or bad date (for me at least). See if algorhythms and psychometric testing really are any better at finding my ‘Prince Charming’ than my own womanly intuition?
And see how my online success rate compares with my random technique of meeting people (generally on the tube for some reason, or snogging randoms in bars…).
So that’s it in a nutshell, hopefully my experiences will provide some insight into the modern day world of dating, or at least provide amusement, perhaps even some mild titilation – Enjoy!